When I started listening to the lyrics of music, I wondered why every song was about love. Is there no other topic, was my thought? I became angry. There was so little love to be found in our familiy and that was what it was all about? How should I get there?
When I grew up, love changed. Finding a relationship became important and romantic love was the only thing to get. Not getting the love I needed in my early childhood days, I made some very poor efforts in this field during youth. Listening to the same songs, I became aware that love was their theme, but loss of love was what these songs were about. So I wasn’t alone.
Growing old, I finally realize that we are only talking about the things we didn’t solve during our lives. So I am happy to say I don’t need to talk too much these days. And romantic love is not the one thing to get, but just one way to become aware of what love might do. It changes you from fighting to trusting. And it has been the persons I really trust that gave it in a way, I haven’t forgotten after twenty and more years, and it was always refused by people I was constantly thinking about.
Die Symmetrie der Dinge 